Tiny Oranges Loves Tiny Truckers!

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Tiny Oranges loves Tiny Truckers!

Well…October has rolled around quickly again this year (HOW???) and it’s always my cue to get my annual mammogram, doctor’s appointments, blood work, etc.  You know, all the appointments that just seem impossible to make in the summer?!  If you haven’t done yours…do it. Like, today.  Just make the call.

We love all things PINK this month in support of breast cancer awareness and wanted to share this Fighter hat, Survivor hat, and Fight Like a Mother hat from San Diego based Tiny Trucker Co. 

All proceeds from the sale of their breast cancer awareness hats will be donated to the National Breast Cancer Foundation

Use Tiny Truckers discount code TINY15 to get 15% off your entire order.

Tiny Trucker Co. was founded by a mom who started by making trucker hats for her baby and toddler. When friends started to ask her to make hats for their kids Tiny Truckers Co. was born and can now be found in over 100 retail locations!

What started as a line of hats for babies and toddlers grew into hats for mamas, families, bridal parties, and sororities. Super cut hats. My favorite thing as a trucker hat-loving mom myself is they  ACTUALLY fit my head nicely without that awkward oversized trucker hat shape! 

The founder’s goal is to provide income opportunities for moms who want to stay home with their kids but also provide financially for their families. Every person employed by Tiny Truckers is a mom.

www.tinytruckerco.com

Use code TINY15 and get 15% off your entire order through 11/30/17.

Photos by Christy Walther Photography

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Tragic Events

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In the wake of last week’s horrific mass shooting in Las Vegas, this article on how to talk to your kids about a tragic event in the news is brought to you by CHOC Children’s

When tragic events happen in the news it is sometimes hard to know how to handle conversations about it with our children. How much information should we give? How do we answer specific questions? How does this vary with a child’s age?

Which is why I was so grateful to have the opportunity to speak with Dr. Nicole Vincent, PhD, a licensed psychologist at CHOC Children’s to get her advice to share with you today. 

 5 Key Things to Remember When Talking to Your Kids About a Tragic Event in the News

My very first question I had for her was,

“Is it better to bring up the event with your child at home first OR wait and see if they hear something from a friend or at school before discussing it?” 

1. Be Mindful of the Child’s Age

Dr. Vincent expressed how we talk to our kids about tragic events in the news will vary depending on the age of the child.

For preschoolers through about 1st grade, the chance a child would be exposed to information in the news is not as likely as it is for older children. So for young ones, a parent might consider not bringing up the event unless the child specifically asks about something they heard.  

For older elementary schoolers she suggested it might be a good idea to touch base with your child’s teacher or administrators to ask if the event has been brought up in class or if it is being talked about? Depending on the answer, this might cue you in to whether you might want to address it with your child at home. 

As kids become middle and high school age, it is very likely, especially with technology and social media exposure, to hear about tragic events and get information outside of the home. For these ages, Dr. Vincent said it is usually a good idea to take a proactive approach and start the conversation at home so you can discuss the facts and give them the opportunity to ask questions. 

Which led to my next question, how do you approach the topic about a tragic news event with your kids?

2. Consider Starting the Conversation With These Questions

The best way to start the conversation is to ask your child open-ended questions like “Have you talked about events in the news?” If yes,What have you heard about it? Tell me what you know.” 

The answers will help guide the conversation as to how much information to share.

For younger age groups, it is best to keep your responses honest and factual, but brief. Details are not totally necessary and often times these responses will be enough to satisfy their curiosity.

For older age groups, she advised to let your child take the lead with information they heard or questions they might ask. It is important to validate their concerns by letting them know they are asking great questions. It’s okay to not always have the answers, you can tell them as much, and empathize with also wanting to also know.  Being there to listen to your child is the most important. 

But regardless of age, she stressed you know your child the best and to pay attention to behavior and cues that might indicate they heard something or have questions. Even young children can pick up on information or overhear things that might surprise you.

Bottom line, take the above age suggestions as general guidelines. But again, you know your child the best.

For me personally, I was surprised my 8-year-old daughter had many more questions and wanted to talk about Las Vegas much more than my 11-year-old daughter. It also elicited more fear in her than her sister. For kids who seem to be experiencing an increase in fear as a result, I asked for suggestions on how to help.

3. Reinforce the Rarity of the Event

Tragic events often trigger fear and anxiety in people of all ages, and for children tragic events can be especially scary

Dr. Vincent suggested this could be a time to highlight the fact that a shooting like the one that occurred in Las Vegas is a rare event. And when rare tragic events happen there are many people that will work together to try to avoid it from happening in the future.

4. Teach Kids to Look for the Helpers

In times like this, I often see people quoting Mister Rodgers when he said, “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

Dr. Vincent mentioned it is very helpful to highlight for your children the people that step up to help in crisis.  Teach them to look at the first responders, volunteers, or strangers helping strangers. These people show us the beauty of humanity in a crisis. 

For some kids, she suggested even possibly talking about what you can do to help as a family. Even a small act like choosing a Go Fund Me account to donate to, writing a letter to a first responder, or looking up supplies to donate can help by showing there are always things people can do to help. 

5. Keep Home Life as Normal as Possible 

One last parting piece of advice was to keep your routine at home as normal as possible.  When a child’s day to day routine is altered for whatever reason, it can cause additional anxiety to build. 

On this note, Dr. Vincent also stressed how important it is to allow yourself the time to process the events. Whether it’s talking to your partner, friends or therapist, it is important to be mindful of your own self-care so you are in the right state of mind to discuss it with your child. 

When To Seek Help

After a tragic event, it is not uncommon to experience a variety of emotions or symptoms like mood changes, difficulty with sleep, or increased headaches or stomachaches. If any of these changes persist in you or your child for more than a couple weeks, and if the symptoms are disrupting daily life, it might be a good idea to pursue help by a mental health professional. 

Get more tips from CHOC experts

For more information about CHOC Children’s and their mental health services visit www.choc.org/services/mental-health

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Getting Beyond the One Word Answer

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This article is brought to you by CHOC Children’s pediatric psychologist Dr. Carlos Konishi Ph.D on conversation starters for kids and advice on how parents can encourage communication beyond the one word answer. Getting kids to share more can be a challenge at times, especially for parents of teenagers. His information on how to get kids to open up gave me so many “AHA!” moments during my interview I actually had to apologize for saying “TOTALLY!”  so many times after he said something that struck a chord. I was like an 80’s teenager myself. Totally.

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One word answers.

Ugh.

How was your day?

Fine.

Good.

Okay.

What did you do?

Not much.

The process of trying to get more information out of your child can be painful at times, like pulling teeth. So how do you get beyond the one word answer?

Here is Dr. Konishi’s insightful advice… be ready to say TOTALLY yourself…

1. CHOOSE YOUR TIMING WISELY

Have you ever come home from a long day and had your spouse ask, “how was your day?” right when you walk in but felt too tired to even put a sentence together?

Dr. Konishi said children and teenagers are exactly the same.

Their school days and life in general require a lot of energy from them.  To have you chirp, “How was your day?” the instant you greet your child after school might not be the best timing.

If you sense your child is not in the mood to talk right away, he suggested giving them some wind down time.

You can let them know you really want to hear about their day when they are ready to talk, and then keep an ear out for other situations when conversation happens naturally. It might be in the kitchen when they are eating a snack, or in the car on the way to a sport practice, or right before bedtime.

Point being, don’t think the immediate moment you see them has to be the time to discuss all that happened in those hours when you were apart. Opportunities will arise, we might just have to exercise a little patience, and take the cues from our child as to when they are in the mood to share.

2. BE CREATIVE

“How was your day?”

Isn’t that usually the go-to question? Dr. Konishi said frankly kids might be tired of it and find it BORING which is why it doesn’t inspire more than a one word answer!

He suggested getting a little more creative in your questioning by asking different, specific questions about their day instead. More like bite size questions vs. a general one. Sometimes these types of questions are easier for kids to process and express.

For example, if you knew they had a specific project going on in one class or subject, you could ask an open-ended question about it.  Or, ask what activity they did at morning recess and who they played with?

You can also be creative in the timing of your questioning. During fun family activities like a walk, bike ride, or family game can be great times to talk.  Speaking of games, he highly recommends a game of conversation starters called TABLETOPICS which you can pick up on Amazon. There is a Family edition and Teen edition and it is a fun way to get the family talking. Not just the kids, but the parents too! (Amazon affiliate links)

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3. BEWARE OF AUTOPILOT MODE

Many times the question, “how was your day?” simply comes from us being in autopilot mode – and it is possible that it in turn triggers an autopilot response of “good” or “fine” from our kids in return.

Dr. Konishi recommended that before starting a conversation with your kids, to first do a self-check as to whether you are able to really listen to what they have to say. Kids can sense when we are multi-tasking and not really listening. In this case, they might not want to answer because they know you aren’t listening.

Bottom line, 0ne way to improve communication with your kids is to start the conversation when you really have time to listen and be present.

4. DON’T FOCUS ON YOUR AGENDA. EXPLORE THEIR INTERESTS.

When starting conversations with our kids many times our questions come from the information we want to know. But these topics might not be super interesting to our kids.

Dr. Konishi said a powerful communication tool can be to tune into their interests and ask questions about the things that excite them. Kids are more likely to open up when it is a topic they want to talk about.

Making children feel like you share and acknowledge their passions is a great way to build better communication, because they know they can share things about it with you.

5. PICK AND CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES

Often times dialogue and conversation between parents and kids can start to go into negative spiral due to constant nit-picking from parents, which can be especially true as children become tweens and teens.  Naturally parents expect more out of older kids, but that can mean kids are constantly being told what to do, what they did wrong, or how to do something different.

If your child starts to feel like all conversations with you are negative, they can start to tune you out because they are conditioned to think you are just going to nag them again.

Dr. Konishi recommends pausing before approaching your child with something that is bothering you and ask yourself, “Is this really important?”

If it is, then by all means, start the conversation about it. But he then advises to keep your message concise and focused on the behavior – not your child’s character. When complaints are piled upon complaints the initial message can be lost. And when a child feels you are judging who they are (and not what they did), the doors will close.  

To take that one step further, he also advises parents to pause and assess whether you can approach the conversation and keep your own emotions cool.  If you can’t, your child will shut the door and go on the defensive.  This is a natural human trait when someone feels attacked. So, take a deep breath, and ask yourself if you can have the conversation without “losing it”? If the answer is no, it is probably best to wait to discuss it with your child.

 YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Dr. Konishi wants parents to realize they are NOT alone, and you don’t have to take on parenting challenges alone.

Parenting is hard. There is no instruction manual and every child is uniquely different. The truth is we don’t have all the answers, and it is OK to ask for help if you are experiencing problems with your child.  There is so much power in sharing your struggles because it encourages others to open up too, and gives us the the opportunity to learn from each other.

He wants parents to seek support…whether it’s from friends, a parenting class, or a family therapist.

One final note he also wanted to stress was that it is normal and natural for kids to go through phases where they are a little more quiet than usual, and it is normal for some kids to be innately less verbal and for some to be more talkative.

You know your child the best. What we always want to stay on the look out for are sudden changes in behavior and/or functioning. If a normally open child suddenly becomes more closed up or has challenges with daily functioning, it might be time to seek professional help. We are so blessed to have places to turn to, like the professionals at CHOC Children’s mental health services.

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For more information about CHOC’s mental health services visit www.choc.org/services/mental-health

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Alexa Echo on Sale for Only $99

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I got Alexa for my birthday last year and our family loves her so much we feel like Alexa is almost a part of our family.  She is just so darn helpful and resourceful.  Many times I even catch myself saying, “thank you” back to her after she completes a task for me.

By now I am sure you have heard of Alexa, a.k.a. the Amazon Echo, the Bluetooth enabled wireless speaker that just might change your life. When I saw Alexa on sale today for only $99 on Amazon, I had to post about it and share my passion for her.

She can stream any of your favorite music and if you are an Amazon Prime member, you can stream the Amazon Music library on Alexa which includes a gazillion songs and stations. Not only that, but her sound is incredible. I love walking into the room and asking her to play music without having to lift my phone or remote.

You can request something like, “Alexa, play Ed Sheeran radio.”

And she will play Ed and other artists like Ed.

You can say, “Alexa, turn it up (or down), and she will adjust the volume.”

You can say, “Alexa, play Ed Sheeran, and she will shuffle all songs by Ed Sheeran.

Or, “Alexa, set kitchen timer for 10 minutes.” And she will ring a little timer after 10 minutes if you are cooking. I love this one because if my hands are messy from cooking I don’t have to wash them before setting my kitchen timer!

She can answer things like, “Alexa, how do you spell “occasion”?  That one always gets me. Or, give you a definition.

She can recite today’s top news or play games like Jeopardy with you.  I mean, she can do almost anything.  She’s extraordinary.

You can link up your account via the Amazon Echo site and app and have her keep a running shopping list or to do list.

“Alexa, add almond milk to my shopping list.” And then you can pull up the Amazon Alexa app on your phone at the store and even check off the items as you purchase them.  She’s amazing.

One last favorite Alexa features before I ask for yours…”Alexa, what’s the weather?” And she will say, “Right now in Costa Mesa it is 78 degrees. Today you can expect a high of 80 degrees and a low of 60 degrees.” Which is so flipping awesome when the kids ask what to wear to school! Now instead of asking me, they ask Alexa for the weather.

Alexa is normally $179 on Amazon but today for some reason Alexa on sale today is only $99!! If you  been contemplating getting one today is THE DAY to buy it!!!!!!! 

You won’t regret it.

Now, what are your favorite Alexa features??

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A Brunch and Spa Celebration at The Ranch

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Disclosure: Complimentary spa treatments provided to facilitate this review. 

One of the things I adored most about my mom was she loved to CELEBRATE life.

Birthdays, holidays, accomplishments, weddings, showers……events in life (big or small) did not pass her by. She made a point to make her family and friends feel special. Getting through my first birthday this year without my mom here to celebrate with was really rough.  So with my sister’s birthday on the horizon this past month I KNEW we had to do something awesome because it is what my mom would want.

I asked my sister what she would like to do to celebrate? She said she would love to go to brunch with girlfriends on her actual birthday (a Monday) and then a spa treatment after with whomever would be able to join.

As soon as she said that, I knew just the place to go for the best Orange County brunch and spa day, a place unlike any other, The Ranch at Laguna Beach. Invites were sent and a a reservation was made at their farm-to-table style restaurant, Harvest. The guests were going to be in for such a treat!

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Most of the women that attended were from Aliso Viejo, only a stone’s throw away from The Ranch, but the majority had not been to the property before. I watched their jaws drop upon arrival. The beauty of The Ranch truly does take your breath away. It is like being in another world.

We had a beautiful table inside overlooking the canyon and plenty of space to giggle a little too loud without disrupting guests :).

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Flowers are a passion of mine so I did little individual centerpieces for each friend to take home.

My favorite is to use the $1.00 mason jars from Michaels and as luck would have it, I also scored some cute white vases on clearance. I tied it with some cooking twine for a little farmhouse ranch flair and voila! instant party favors that double as centerpieces!

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Let me now talk about the food at Harvest. Because it was truly spectacular from start to finish with many of the Harvest ingredients garden grown right on the property.  Bright, fresh and delectable.To get your mouth watering, here is a glimpse of the breakfast menu….

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Our lovely server Sydney started the pretty birthday girl off with a little “appetizer” to share – one of the house specialities – the Applewood Smoked Bacon Cinnamon Roll.

If there is any reason to try Harvest for brunch, this is it.

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Every single item the women ordered was ooohhhhh’d and ahhhhhhh’d over to no end. From the gorgeous presentation to the unique flavor profiles, Harvest does Orange County brunch right.

orangecountybrunchfoodie Menu items top to bottom, left to right: Eggs Benedict, Shrimp and Grits, Applewood Smoked Bacon Cinnamon Roll, Avocado Toast

To spend a Monday morning laughing with good friends over mimosas and celebrating my sister was a true gift. These are the moments in life you cherish and The Ranch is the kind of place where memories like this are made.

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theranchbrunch Now unfortunately after brunch was over most of the women had to return to “real life.” Luckily my sister and I were able to continue the celebration with the help of our dad who agreed to watch the kids for the afternoon so we could visit the The Ranch’s Sycamore Spa.

When I called to make the appointments I was DELIGHTED to learn Sycamore Spa was running a 50% off spa services special Monday – Thursdays for locals!! 

Ladies, I believe this deal is running through the end of the month, so call and make an appointment if you can. It’s such an amazing deal for such a fabulous experience.

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Nestled down the hill from Harvest adjacent to the property pool, The Ranch’s Sycamore Spa awaits and paradise is calling. I love a quaint spa where you feel more like you are in someone’s home, which is exactly what you will find here with its comfy, coastal-chic decor.

There are both outside and inside relaxation areas where you can wait before or after your treatment.  It was such a gorgeous day we cozied into two plush lounge chairs and chatted to the sounds of the fountain while enjoying the gorgeous green canyon views.

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Now let me tell you about my treatment and Jake my massage therapist.

Wow.

Wow.

WOW.

Phenomenal.

Afterwards I asked him what sort of technique he used because it was really next level relaxation. He told me he has been practicing massage for over 10 years and recently has been studying a new technique called craniosacral therapy. He started to explain what it was in more detail, but it was too technical for my post-massage spa-brain. All I know is that I felt like a million bucks. I will be back.

If you go, take it from me – ask for Jake.

Overall, it was one of those “perfect” days you wish you could bottle. And I know we made my mom very happy because we felt her sparkling all over our celebration.

If you are looking for a special place to celebration a life event with an Orange County brunch and spa day, The Ranch is the perfect place. It doesn’t even have to call for a celebration, as going there is a celebration in itself.

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For more information or to make reservations visit:

www.theranchlb.com

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