I’m So Sorry

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This post is about teaching kids how to apologize. Sincerely. Not a, “Sorry, but….!” A real, genuine, sincere apology. A skill that will serve them well in life because let’s face it, we all mess up.

Teaching kids how to apologize Recently I was chatting with one of my best girlfriends and she shared a story about something that happened with her middle-school aged son.

Her boy is a great kid. Super smart, responsible, good sense of right and wrong. The kind of kid that you just adore. But he, like all of us do from time to time, messed up and got in trouble in class.

How she handled it was so impressive I had to share.

Seems as if he was talking a bit too much with the kid next to him and his teacher got mad and gave him a recess consequence.

He’t not the type of kid who is used to getting in trouble, so to him this was a very big deal and he was MAD.

He was mad at the kid who was talking with him, mad at his teacher, and in the mode of misplacing the blame and justifying all the reasons why he didn’t deserve to get in trouble.

His mom, instead of blowing it off or saying ‘kids will be kids’, or  just do your recess consequence and get it over with had a conversation with him about taking responsibility for HIS actions.

She told him the only thing he could control in this situation was how he reacted to it.

He couldn’t control the other kid’s talking. He couldn’t control the teacher choosing to give the consequence to him. The only thing he could control was his part in the situation, how he personally was involved and how he could handle it from here.

She said once he got his head around accepting responsibility for what he did to get the consequence, he was really disappointed in himself and didn’t know what to do.

She explained to him,

“When you mess up, the very best thing you can do is to give that person a sincere apology.”

He agreed.

So, her son emailed the teacher to ask if he could talk to her at the break before class the next day. That night he planned out what he was going to say and put some bullet point thoughts on paper. Namely,

* I am so sorry for talking in class.
* I feel very badly for not respecting your time.
* I am aware of my mistake and it won’t happen again.
* I am concerned about my citizenship grade and hope that this will not affect it. If it will, what can I do to make things right?

My friend said the teacher was surprised by his apology, and of course graciously accepted it.

He came home that day like a weight had been lifted off his shoulders.

There really is so much power in a sincere apology. Instead of letting it fester inside, there is something so freeing in admitting wrongdoing and expressing remorse.

Teaching Kids How to Apologize 

We all mess up.  Kids, adults and everyone in between.

I think he hit all the main points on the head on how to make a sincere apology.

1. He took responsibility and showed awareness of his mistake (no blaming someone else or no “buts”!)
2. He expressed remorse.
3. He expressed an effort to not do it again.
4. He asked for forgiveness –  or what he could do to make it right.

I love my friend for sharing this story with me. These types of lessons will be lifelong ones for kids. She gets an A+ in this life lesson.

Anyone else want to chime in with your thoughts on teaching kids how to apologize? Sincerely?

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OC Mom EXPO

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The 2015 OC Mom EXPO is coming this weekend to Anaheim and I have a FREE pass for you to print to attend the festivities!

Being a mom is a special bond shared between women – a sisterhood. Right mamas?

This trade show is designed to bring moms together, motivate, inspire, nurture, and reward women of young families as they travel through the journey of motherhood.

The trades how will feature exhibitors with special interest items particularly for women, moms of young children, and kids from newborns to school age, with educational content, demonstrations, play zones, music, entertainment and more.

The EXPO is for all moms wanting to get answers, seek guidance, and find options that meet your family needs no matter which stage of motherhood you are in.

Throughout the day, there will be many fun activities for you and your kids to enjoy. From a DJ-led kids’  dance party to toddler story time and parachute play from princess appearances to music shows – it will be a fun-filled day for all ages. Click here for the show schedule.

The EXPO hours are from 10am – 4pm, with a special early bird Easter Egg hunt from 9am – 10am.  Print this coupon below for free admission!

For more information visit www.ocmomexpo.com.

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Local Love: Spring Break in the OC

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Spring Break in Orange County

With Spring Break right around the corner, this post is dedicated to enjoying Spring Break in Orange County…and how fun a “staycation” can be!  Here’s my list of fun things to do, and I would love to hear from you – please comment below, and let me know about your favorite things to do with your kids around town!

Tiny Oranges’ Recommendations

Let’s kick things off with some of Tiny Oranges’ recommendations and favorite things to do with kids in Orange County!

- I wrote a blog all about fun activities to do in warm weather - and how to keep cool!

- Jen wrote a blog about her favorite OC outing ides for kids - check it out!

- Read Jen’s blog about this fabulous Plan a Day Out website – a site ALL OC moms should know about it!  Check it out here – “Whatcha Going to do Today?” This is a great tool to use over Spring Break!

- Interested in being outside in the fresh air?  Read Lisa’s blog all about where to take some beautiful OC nature walks.

- Want to just “keep it simple” this break?  Read my blog about fun, easy activities to do with your littles – “Keeping it Simple with Kid Activities.”

“Beach Therapy”

People come from all over the country to vacation at our beautiful beaches…and they are just a hop, skip and a jump away from us here in OC!  Here are some of my favorite beaches to take the kids to…and I’d love to hear about yours.

Baby Beach (Dana Point)

Aliso Creek Beach (Laguna Beach, has a playground!)

Corona Del Mar Beach (Corona Del Mar)

Balboa Pier Beach (Newport Beach, has a playground!)

Jen also wrote a blog about her best kid beaches in the OC – check it out!

Bouncy Play

Let them bounce out their energy!  I love taking my kids to any place they can be in a safe, enclosed (air conditioned!) kid’s bounce house.  Here are some Orange County bouncing options:

Jump ‘N Jammin (Mission Viejo)

Pump it Up (Lake Forest, Irvine)

Scooter’s Jungle (Aliso Viejo)

Big Air Trampoline Park (Laguna Hills)

Frogg’s Bounce House (Fountain Valley)

Jump Sky High (Costa Mesa)

Museums, Zoos and Parks

Oh my gosh, Orange County has TONS of super fun places to take your little ones!  Here are some of my favorites:

Balboa Fun Zone

Pretend City Children’s Museum

Discovery Science Center 

Irvine Park and Orange County Zoo

Santa Ana Zoo

Mission San Juan Capistrano

The Queen Mary

Zoomars

Bowling Fun

Take your kids bowling!  Mine have never been, and I think they would have a blast!  Look up the bowling alley closest to you, and watch for fun theme days or kid-specific hours.

Irvine Lanes

Saddleback Lanes

Tustin Lanes

Theme Parks

This is a no-brainer – we are a mecca of theme parks here in So Cal!  So if you want to take your kiddos for a special treat, take them to one of these awesome theme parks in our area.  Just make sure to do your online research to check out any possible ticket discount and hours of operation.

Disneyland

Disney California Adventure

Legoland

Knotts Berry Farm

Six Flags

Sea World

Universal Studios

Movie Time

With our recent heat wave, a nice cool, air conditioned movie theater sounds amazing!  Look up your local movie times and take your kiddos for a theater treat.  Keep an eye out for those dollar movie theaters, too!

Check out the OC Weekly for a great list of Orange County movie theater options.

And if you have little ones, I also encourage you to read my blog on “Tips for Taking Little Kids to the Movie Theater” – hope they help!

Day Camps

Another idea is to check out local Spring Break day camps – think about your local gymnastics gyms, martial arts studios, swim places, YMCAs, community centers, etc. – many times these organizations will offer half day or full day camps during Spring Break.  It’s worth looking into!

A Pajama Day at Home

Sometimes my kids just want to stay in their jammies, play Legos, and zone out to Disney Junior.  And that’s totally okay with me!  I try to plan at least one day out of their Spring Break vacation to have a pajama day – planned down-time, if you will.  Our schedules are so crazy during the school year, sometimes we all just need a breather.

I let them build good old fashioned “forts” with blankets, have a picnic in the backyard, watch movies with popcorn, and just veg out.  They love it, and so do I!

 

Okay mamas, let’s keep this list going!  Where are your favorite places to go?  Favorite things to do with your kiddos?

All of us at Tiny Oranges wishes you a fabulous, fun Spring Break!!

Photo credit: Flickr Copyright  All rights reserved by Talo66

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The Rest Pillow Pair *Giveaway* Starts Today

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Does your sofa or bed need a little freshening up this spring?  What a BIG difference a few new, beautiful pillows can make.  Starting today over on Instagram, we have a fantastic giveaway (valued at $130) for this set of batik indigo cotton dyed pillows, compliments of The Rest Design.

It’s so easy…click over to Instagram, follow TinyOrangesOC and follow the directions to enter.  Seriously, it’s worth setting up an Instagram account if you don’t already have one!

Use the code TINYORANGES at checkout on their site and receive 25% off orders of 2 or more items!

Look at these beauties…they could be yours!  Good luck and have a great weekend…

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Cheers

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When daylight savings arrives it reminds me of summer days ahead…warm days, bright sunshine and convening with friends and neighbors in the late afternoon to enjoy a cocktail while the kids play. This year I am in the mood to experiment with new cocktail recipes so I have been doing research on refreshing spring cocktail recipes I wanted to share with you today.

You’re welcome.

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1. The Skinny Mojito

I love a mojito on warm days. There’s something about the crisp, sweet mint that instantly reminds me of summer and makes me wish I had a front porch with a swing to sit on and sip…

I found this recipe for a Skinny Mojito with Truvia Natural Sweetener which reduces the calories and has no added sugar, but is still super yummy.

2. Moscow Mule 

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I have to  admit I might be a fan of the Moscow Mule Copper Mug (affiliate link) as much as I am of the cocktail.

My girlfriend made this special Moscow mule recipe last summer. Best play date ever.

* Crush mint leaves, ginger root & half a lime (or other citrus fruit) in a shot of citrus infused vodka.

* Pour contents in glass with crushed ice.

* Top with ginger beer or, for less calories, diet ginger ale. Add a mint leaf or wedge of citrus to garish.

3. Pink Greyhound Cocktail 

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The pink greyhound is one of the simplest cocktails you can make – essentially 6 oz of grapefruit juice mixed with 1.5 oz of vodka or gin served over ice.

Put salt on the rim, and turn it into a Salty Dog.

Sweet and refreshing.

4. Skinnygirl Margarita 

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I could live on chips, guacamole and margaritas in the summer. But with the added sugar, it can be a calorie-loaded cocktail. Especially when combined with the chips and guac cals I can put back!

Bethenny Frankel’s Skinnygirl margarita recipe replaces the sugar with fresh lime juice.

Still refreshing and cuts down the calories.

5. St. Germain Strawberry Lemonade 

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I found this recipe for St. Germain Strawberry Lemonade online on a blog called Fashionably Bombed, which might be one of my favorite blog names. Ever.

After reading the comments, I also do think, it would be super yummy with champagne as well.

Cheers! 

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